Have you ever been labelled as a stereotype?
In high school, I was your typical “fuck-high-school” naive, teenage girl. I had long, light brown hair, I was cute and I always had those guys who would be like, “Oh, I want to fuck Sammy.”I think that because I was a cute and confident girl, people would assume that I was a “slut”. C’mon it’s high school, everyone is so threatened by anyone with confidence that they have to label it with something completely irrelevant. So, I would be like, okay, what’s a slut? Of course every ignorant high schoolers response would be, “a girl who fucks a lot of guys” when actually, I didn’t have sex in high school at all. I’m not an overly sexual person, but I’m comfortable in my own skin because I know that I can be sexy without trying to attract men. Confidence didn’t come overnight; it took awhile to ignore those evil little thoughts.
How is LA different to NYC in terms of how people viewed you and how you viewed yourself?
It was awful. That’s why I left LA. I always knew that there was a lot more to me than I was projecting to everyone I was around, and I guess I was scared because everyone where I was growing up was the same. They looked the same, dressed the same, and acted the same. There’s individuality of course, but when I went back over the past four months, I wasn’t myself. If I walked down the street with outfits that I walk down the street in New York, as comfortable as I am in my own skin, it’s not comfortable having everyone look at you and have girls whisper about you. It sucks. I mean, come on man, here’s a woman trying to express herself and here you are shutting her down. I wasn’t myself when I was there and I think that a lot of people aren’t able to be who they are. To me, it’s a plastic city with a mask over it.
You are a musician, how do you deal with putting yourself out there and accepting critique?
I’m all about critique, dude. When one of my roommates didn’t like what I did, at first, I was like, “How could they put down my art?” I let my ego get in the way, but then I realized that my work isn’t going to be for everybody. I don’t get too upset when people don’t like my work because I think of it as more room for improvement and more inspiration to allow me to broaden my thought process. I don’t get upset or anything like that, I just use it to inspire me. I think if you make stuff to get other people to like your stuff, you won’t get too far. Whenever people say to me, “you do realize, it’s really hard to be a musician and so many people want to make it big”, I think, that’s awesome, but I know what I am capable of. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and imagine how crazy it would be to be “big”, and I say to myself, “Stop thinking that you can’t do it, and stop thinking that you are not good enough for it because you are”.
Social media is a blessing and a curse… What’s your view?
It’s definitely a blessing because there are women who using social media to spread incredible messages and it’s helping people get their work out there who wouldn’t before, but it’s a curse because it’s making us lazier. Anybody is able to release music, and anybody can be a model, and I think that it is deteriorating so many fields of professions, but it is kind of awesome because it’s forcing us to work that much harder. In saying all of this though, I do think we need to look at Instagram and YouTube and get the pros out of it and stop bashing it. We can’t bash it because it’s here, and it’s everywhere, so we have to make the most of it.
On one hand, I think it’s great because I have met talented artists who share my creative vision and I’ve collaborated with them, but on the other hand, I have noticed that I can fall into the trap of having “Instagram friends” who I have never met and I don’t think it’s unhealthy to have virtual friendships.
It’s a really strange way that people our age interact with each other. Everyone I meet my age has awful social skills. It’s like we don’t know how to communicate with each other without a screen. We would rather text someone sitting across from us because we are afraid. Last night when I was at dinner at my friends house, we were all sitting around and I was trying to start conversation Then all of a sudden one person pulled out their phone and then the others were silent looking at each other like, oh do we actually have to start a conversation or also pull out our phones? I was sitting there with no phone, looking at everyone and it made me wonder, “what is so important online when you have real people in front of you?” When you are with people and can have dialog like this, that is when real shit happens compared to texting. You can really overthink what you want to say to people via text because you can delete and misinterpret. Our generation is living in a fantasy world. It’s a façade. If you have a passion for something, why not share it with more people in person? That’s when you get the most inspiration!
There are a lot of young girls that follow you and look up to you, what is the one thing that you hope you convey with your social media presence?
It’s funny that you bring that up because I had two different girls message me and say, “you don’t know me, but I started following you and I wanted to say thank you so much because of you I am more comfortable with what I wear and because of you I’m moving to New York City next year because it was my dream.” I never post anything on Instagram thinking this is going to change a girl's life today, I just post what I feel from the heart and I think that’s cool because I try to reiterate to myself, “Sam, you have so much passion inside of you, you’re charismatic so keep being that” and when you are like that, people are going to notice that and feed off that and help them see the version that they want to be. I don’t want to convey anything, I just want girls to be inspired by me being me, and then realizing that they can also be themselves because I know social media can be so daunting. I think it’s really inspirational to think that girls are inspired by me being me, because if I ever become something in my career I want people to see my personality and gravitate towards themselves.
As humans we are so fucking incredible.
To conclude, what’s the one thing that you do to practice self-love and self-acceptance?
I meditate every night. I find that to be really important, and if I don’t have time to meditate, I go on the subway, put my earphones in, sunglasses on and close my eyes.
When I am on my bed, scrolling on my phone, I think instead of scrolling, I could be looking at the ceiling and saying what I love about myself. In California, I kind of lost sight of who I was and I made it a ritual where I would wake up and look at myself in the mirror and say one thing that I love about myself and one thing that I want to improve, because we can always improve. I try to give myself compliments and when I am feeling down on myself, I’m like ok, change it. Stop thinking of all of these problems and not coming up with solutions.
Meditation is key. Once you start realizing that there is so much going on inside our bodies right now that we can’t see, and you start discovering your higher power, you start radiating and that’s when certain people gravitate towards you because they can see that. That’s when you meet really incredible people. When you are down in the dumps, think of a solution. We have the ability in ourselves to solve everything. How do you think we built these skyscrapers?
I don’t think enough people practice to love themselves. In school, we were never told, “Hey when you wake up in the morning, tell yourself you love yourself!” so I think that's a good place to start.
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